The Signs of an Unavailable Man

• He doesn’t follow through with what he said he would do;

• The amount of time he spends at work leaves little time for anything else;

• He lives very far away (I’m not a big fan of long-distance romances);

• The work he does is unfulfilling (or worse – he hates what he does);

• You notice that he drinks/smokes/gambles/(fill in any other crutch) too much;

• He spends an inordinate amount of time with his parents (of course, ignore this if they’re sick);

• His divorce is not final (no matter what he says about where things are);

• The way he talks about his ex reveals anger, resentment, blame, and no personal responsibility;

• He wants to spend 24/7 with you right away, and is calling/texting several times a day. (This one sounds like the opposite of unavailable, but think about it: he doesn’t even really know you yet, and he can’t get enough of you? Beware of the possibility of your ego’s glee at his obsession with you);

• His financial situation is a disaster (tricky these days with the economy the way it is – after all, Donald Trump went bankrupt…and went right back to being a multi-gazillionaire);

• He seems to be too needy of your approval, praise, etc. (having said that, men are fueled by our approval, and we do want to shower men with that gift – just pay attention to how he is about this – insatiable is a bad sign that he doesn’t have it for himself…this can also show up se-xu-ally, by the way);

• After several dates, he’s still actively dating someone else (he doesn’t owe you exclusivity – as you don’t owe him, either – but after a certain point, you’re either ready for exclusivity, or you’re not);

• You notice either by his car or his home that it looks like it belongs to a teenager – and a cyclone hit, too (again, this one’s tricky, but if he’s got trash all over the place, and it doesn’t look like he respects himself enough to take care of his things, that could spell trouble);

• He is depressed and not taking care of it (it’s your call if you want to be with a man who has this issue, but if he’s not managing it with meds or professional help, you’re asking for trouble);

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The Signs of an Unavailable Man