Honesty Hour: Don't Come 2 Eat At My Table if You Come Empty-Handed
This is sure to cause a stir
Simmer Children.
Simmer Children.
Why Are You Single?
I get asked that question more than I can count these days and not to toot my own horn, but I know exactly why.
- I'm 24 yrs young.
- College Senior
- Federal Employee (tenured)
- My Own Car
- No Children
- and a short time away from owning my own home
& I don't tolerate games nor BS from ANYBODY
AKA
Having Standards
Above ^^ (I'm not bragging on me, I'm bragging on God.)
BACK 2 THE TOPIC: Sure, I have flaws of my own- I'm not exempt- I struggle with issues of trust, the ability to group all men into that lump sum category of "friend" with-in five mins of talking; amongst other things that I've touched on in previous blogs.
But like the Great Sean Carter Said in "Justify My Thug"
But like the Great Sean Carter Said in "Justify My Thug"
I never ask for nothing I don't demand of myself.
Is it too much to ask for that a Man be equal, if not above me in life?
You can't buy a Continental Flying Spur with an EBT card, right? So why should I settle for the dope dealer on the street with the 92' Cadillac Seville and Subsidized Housing when I'm working with a vested 401K, Stable Job, and Benefits? Hopefully you follow what I'm saying. I'm Prized.
I'm not riding a high horse or being "Saddidy"....I don't call my standards: high. I call them Basic Eligibility Ranking Factors (The Personnel-est in me talking).
AGAIN, I never ask for nothing I don't demand of myself.
A man with a Career, Car, No Children, and His Own Place are just the basic's to spark my sincere interest and every person I tell that to when asked "Why are you single?" believe's I'm living in some fantasy, I'm asking for the impossible, and that eventually I'll have to "BREAK" BKA Compromise.
I've been advised this man I just painted a picture of above does not exist and I call bullsh!t.
The age bracket in which I'm seeking male friends (to start) is 28-35; at that age what I described above should not only be obtained, but surpassed. Compromising is NOT my thing in dating anymore- been there done that. You accept and let this slide (i.e. Baby Mama's, Drug Dealers, Low Life, WEEDHEADS) and the next thing you know the person you met is no longer the one in front of you, your life comes to a stand still and your either baring kids with no intention of becoming a wife or you being treated like a door mat- REAL TALK.
I'm a Young Woman with a Career, Car, No Children, and soon to be my own HOME. How could you approach me if you can't match that? <- here I would put "or in the near future" but Tomorrow's not promised.
I have a future to continue building. An empire to strive to fight and keep my sanity for. Why bring unnecessary inferiority into a possible relationship? Why would I risk my own life/financial status/ and most importantly time on someone who isn't at the point I am- where I'll have to in some form "lower" myself to feed his ego?- cuz you know how Men are about that pride.
And before I get flack, it's not simply about material possessions with me or your financial status- as I stated earlier that is only the basic qualifications. Once you met that you'll have to have other qualities that I find attractive and are desired of a mate.
Do we follow the same God? if not, are you willing to convert?
What is your spirit like?
What is your mind like?
Haboring pain? commitment phobias?
What were your past relationships like?
Are you a habitual liar? repeat cheater? (i'll find out if so, but I'd appreciate a warning)
What do you define Loyalty as?
Respect?
Honor?
Raised by both or 1 parent? or neither?
Define a date?
Define when it's appropriate for "female/male friends" to have boundaries set?
Ex's still around?
I'm not riding a high horse or being "Saddidy"....I don't call my standards: high. I call them Basic Eligibility Ranking Factors (The Personnel-est in me talking).
AGAIN, I never ask for nothing I don't demand of myself.
A man with a Career, Car, No Children, and His Own Place are just the basic's to spark my sincere interest and every person I tell that to when asked "Why are you single?" believe's I'm living in some fantasy, I'm asking for the impossible, and that eventually I'll have to "BREAK" BKA Compromise.
I've been advised this man I just painted a picture of above does not exist and I call bullsh!t.
The age bracket in which I'm seeking male friends (to start) is 28-35; at that age what I described above should not only be obtained, but surpassed. Compromising is NOT my thing in dating anymore- been there done that. You accept and let this slide (i.e. Baby Mama's, Drug Dealers, Low Life, WEEDHEADS) and the next thing you know the person you met is no longer the one in front of you, your life comes to a stand still and your either baring kids with no intention of becoming a wife or you being treated like a door mat- REAL TALK.
I'm a Young Woman with a Career, Car, No Children, and soon to be my own HOME. How could you approach me if you can't match that? <- here I would put "or in the near future" but Tomorrow's not promised.
I have a future to continue building. An empire to strive to fight and keep my sanity for. Why bring unnecessary inferiority into a possible relationship? Why would I risk my own life/financial status/ and most importantly time on someone who isn't at the point I am- where I'll have to in some form "lower" myself to feed his ego?- cuz you know how Men are about that pride.
And before I get flack, it's not simply about material possessions with me or your financial status- as I stated earlier that is only the basic qualifications. Once you met that you'll have to have other qualities that I find attractive and are desired of a mate.
Simply, What else do you have; non-material to offer me?
Do we follow the same God? if not, are you willing to convert?
What is your spirit like?
What is your mind like?
Haboring pain? commitment phobias?
What were your past relationships like?
Are you a habitual liar? repeat cheater? (i'll find out if so, but I'd appreciate a warning)
What do you define Loyalty as?
Respect?
Honor?
Raised by both or 1 parent? or neither?
Define a date?
Define when it's appropriate for "female/male friends" to have boundaries set?
Ex's still around?
Where do you see yourself in 5 years? 10 years? 15 years?
Career Goals?
Pursuing a degree or an additional?
Thoughts on Marriage?
Children?
Most guys answer those questions with "I Don't Know" or a placeholder and cliffhanger to f*ck "I'm not sure of the future".
While that's true, You need to know SOMETHING- Desire to be better than what you are.
I mean I could go on but I'm not sure people are used to other's having standards these days other that a fake me out 90-day "no sex" rule.
Standards give me time to access exactly who it is I'm dealing with;
Some may say how I feel may guarantee me alone for life but you know what?
If that's the cards God has for me than so be it; without any anger, bitterness, or resentment I can say that the experiences I've had in this department, if faced with it a secondary time....Single Town may become a permanent place for me to dwell.
Enjoy Ur Weekend.
Career Goals?
Pursuing a degree or an additional?
Thoughts on Marriage?
Children?
Most guys answer those questions with "I Don't Know" or a placeholder and cliffhanger to f*ck "I'm not sure of the future".
While that's true, You need to know SOMETHING- Desire to be better than what you are.
I mean I could go on but I'm not sure people are used to other's having standards these days other that a fake me out 90-day "no sex" rule.
Standards give me time to access exactly who it is I'm dealing with;
What I'm asking for- I demand of myself...so Trust & Believe I'm fair.
Some may say how I feel may guarantee me alone for life but you know what?
If that's the cards God has for me than so be it; without any anger, bitterness, or resentment I can say that the experiences I've had in this department, if faced with it a secondary time....Single Town may become a permanent place for me to dwell.
What I'm asking for- I demand of myself— DN&MM (@AmilleonLyriss) October 13, 2012
Come Equally Yolked.
Enough of my rant...Enjoy Ur Weekend.
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