My Advice: 2 The Girl "IN LOVE"

I've been looking for more ways to uplift Young Women these days.

Life is hard enough as it is, and as a Young Woman with no time to waste I feel like I could be serving  other's like me by offering tid bits of advicet.

THIS IS JUST FROM MY EXPERIENCE

To start this new segment off, I wanna sit down with a glass of wine and speak to the girl....that's "In Love".

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I was in your shoes, this may be your first time around or eighth but I hope you brought both your heart and mind to this conversation.

The first bit of advice I want to offer you is Love God and Keep HIM First, whatever God is serve is never going to leave you. It's possible this man will, it's even possible you'll leave that man. Keep God as your direction, seek him, love him.

Love your man but don't be Foolish; there's a difference between looking past someone's minor flaws and accepting straight bullshit. Please learn the difference.

Love Yourself more than your partner; I realize that may sound extremely selfish but life is too short. & God forbid this doesn't pan out like you want it to, your bound to not remember who YOU are once HE is gone. Invest as much time as you can with your star player; YOU.

Leave what THEY did, Behind HIM; you can't stand being compared to the previous women? he doesn't want to be compared to those dudes either. leave the past in the past. delete ex's numbers, remove all the "side-line dudes" outta ya life....but make sure...HE DOES THE SAME. be all in or don't bother...remember that.

Keep your eyes open;  there will be signs of both trouble and paradise- never let them fly by on your radar. small inconsistent things lead to the unveiling of bigger shit....pay attention.

Check your emotions before you log-in; Don't put up with outlandish flirting but also don't go looking for shit. Social Networking is more harm than good, if your going to be in a relationship- make a choice to either be an adult while logged in or don't attempt to add your significant other. Save yourself a bunch of stress- and don't say "I'm not like that"...Your a Woman...WE ARE ALL LIKE THAT.

TRUST; I could go-in on this until the sun comes up but I won't. Without trust your building a sand castle. if you want the brick house, build trust- you should both be earning eachother's trust. if you give of it freely, you can't be upset when it's  taken advantage of. when you go thru the process of earning a promotion, don't you cherish it more when you finally get it? trust should be the same.

Make an effort Don't become so routine with the relationship. both parties need to venture outside comfort zones and lose inhibitions. physically, mentally, and emotionally.

Remember, a relationship is two people; So your girls "she-she and sasha" and his dudes "nate and jo-jo" need to be in their place. respect eachother and keep your business behind closed doors. not in text messages, not to mommy and daddy, not to facebook, twitter, or instagram. matter of fact, stay off social networking completely when there's trouble round. take a break from the bs and focus on either ending or saving your relationship.

be aware, he has feelings/emotions too most men don't show it until their SUPER comfortable with you but if your real about yours it won't take long to find out all about your man. There should be alot of giving between the two of you, alot of learning, alot of compassion, forgiveness, and most importantly communication.

Lastly,

Remember that Love "can take you to heaven, even if it takes a detour thru hell". Reach solutions together on issues early. Let nothing fester, it'll only hinder you in the long run. 

There's more I could offer but....Experience is it's Best Teacher.

Remember Your Worth!