REPOST: Loyalty, The "IT" Word mashondaloyal.com
Read thru this last night....had to re-post.
Personal Message: I've dealt with "loyalty" and a lack thereof in-depth for the better part of my life so far and it's something that I wish personally I exhibited alot more as well as could see in my peers, associates etc.
Without going into too much detail I've dealt with people whom claimed to be my dog, my homie, my friend, even my man....but when it came down to loyalty- I wasn't given it- amongst other things. On the flip-side, I've become so hardened by life's quarrels and those previous experiences that I've let my loyalty to God, Myself, and My Family slip. I don't consider one present associate of mine a friend Why? I really haven't given myself a chance to have friends. I'm always up-in-arms with people, giving them only certain parts of me out of fear of what they'll eventually do. I'm scorned by what my past friends/men/family have done so bad that I destroy the chances of a new friendship/relationship/increased family interaction before it even begins.- this will change in due time.
Like Mashonda explains below, for so long I have simply put the blame on others not taking full responsibility for my actions and doing something about it. I talk the talk but not necessarily walk the walk.
In my darkest hour, I "befriend-ed" those whom had proven to me in previous instances they didn't exhibit loyalty....how foolish is that?
As I grow deeper in my walk in faith, prepare myself for a thriving, empowering, long-lasting relationship and chances to meet new people; I say a prayer to rid myself of the foolishness of my past. No more worrying about what people are doing- True color's come out eventually, why not give of myself- intelligently while given the opportunity.
I never want to end up at heaven's door wondering if I really lived I wanna be sure and know that I know, that I know, THAT I KNOW (Pastor Betty P. reference) that I used all of myself, Lived a decent life, and most of all Loved alot of people.
This is not to say I'm gonna be gun-ho and run to people whom have shown their true colors- I am just going to let them do them. I'm gonna do me as well, Love those whom love me and even those whom don't- I'm still gonna do it anyway.I'm gonna open up to those genuine people whom open up to me and show me that they are able to handle me. I'm gonna finally forgive those whom have hurt me in the past- I'm going to give others opportunities to get to know me for me, not the half-of a woman I used to present myself as.
Today's a New Day.
But enough of me....
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Seems like the L word has become popular overnight and as I witness it loosely float out the mouths of those that are clearly still completely clueless as to what it really means, I just shake my head and wonder if they will ever fully understand. Loyalty does not compete with ego. You canʼt expect to be considered a loyal person if you are in fact doing things to others that you wouldnʼt want done to you. Loyalty is a character that stands alone, it doesnʼt need validation or verification. Itʼs a powerful force and element in any dynamic or relationship. With loyalty you can build a nation that will claim itself timeless, without it you can build a nation that will stand conditionally, then fall. In order to attain loyalty you must first look within yourself. Do you have the courage to stand in front of a mirror and tear yourself apart, then carefully put yourself back together again. That is the first step to being loyal.
Self-loyalty: being in tune with who you truly are and what you want to change about yourself to be a better person. Who are you under that pretty makeup, when you take of those fancy shoes and strip down to your bare skin? Are you still happy? Are your thoughtʼs controlling you, or do you control them? Until you start to put in the work of self-improvement you will never be considered loyal and therefore you will never have what it takes to be loyal to anyone else.
Iʼm still learning about the word loyalty and I understand that it is deeper than it sounds. When I first got my Loyalty tattoo back in 2008 I was in the beginning of a separation from my ex husband. I woke up one morning and it had finally hit me like a ten pound weight. I had given up on all my dreams, Iʼd been sitting in a safety box for 10 years straight. I stopped working for the better of Mashonda and was now working for the better of another human being. My self-loyalty had been diminished and I was losing myself and what God wanted me to do. I donʼt regret the time that I invested into my relationship but I wish I wouldʼve known that all I needed was a little more balance, that way I wouldʼve invested more time into me as well. Thankfully itʼs never to late and on that sunny morning I opened my eyes and I knew it was time to be loyal to me. I walked over to my bathroom counter and I looked straight into my soul, I knew what I had to do. I had to make some serious changes and it started when I stopped pointing the finger at others and began to take the blame for all of my own choices.
God is a good God, God is love. Most times we want to ask God “why me?” or “how could you let this happen to me when Iʼm such a good person?” Never ask God those things, itʼs just disrespectful. If you pay close attention to your life in reverse you will notice that you were always given signs. Thereʼs always something that happens first to make us aware of what might happen next but we seem to always take those signs for granted. Now, in my current age, Iʼve learned to act on those signs as quickly as possible. Itʼs a safety net that prevents things from spinning out of control and I am thankful for the clarity that those signs provide. God lets us make the ultimate choice, therefore there is no one to blame but ourselves.
If you can start practicing self-loyalty you will be less disappointed when others let you down, you will understand you self-worth. You canʼt be loyal to others if you are not loyal to yourself. The reality of that will always catch up to you.
LOYALTY; THE “IT” WORD
Be Loyal,
Mashonda
LOYALTY; THE “IT” WORD
Personal Message: I've dealt with "loyalty" and a lack thereof in-depth for the better part of my life so far and it's something that I wish personally I exhibited alot more as well as could see in my peers, associates etc.
Without going into too much detail I've dealt with people whom claimed to be my dog, my homie, my friend, even my man....but when it came down to loyalty- I wasn't given it- amongst other things. On the flip-side, I've become so hardened by life's quarrels and those previous experiences that I've let my loyalty to God, Myself, and My Family slip. I don't consider one present associate of mine a friend Why? I really haven't given myself a chance to have friends. I'm always up-in-arms with people, giving them only certain parts of me out of fear of what they'll eventually do. I'm scorned by what my past friends/men/family have done so bad that I destroy the chances of a new friendship/relationship/increased family interaction before it even begins.- this will change in due time.
Like Mashonda explains below, for so long I have simply put the blame on others not taking full responsibility for my actions and doing something about it. I talk the talk but not necessarily walk the walk.
In my darkest hour, I "befriend-ed" those whom had proven to me in previous instances they didn't exhibit loyalty....how foolish is that?
As I grow deeper in my walk in faith, prepare myself for a thriving, empowering, long-lasting relationship and chances to meet new people; I say a prayer to rid myself of the foolishness of my past. No more worrying about what people are doing- True color's come out eventually, why not give of myself- intelligently while given the opportunity.
I never want to end up at heaven's door wondering if I really lived I wanna be sure and know that I know, that I know, THAT I KNOW (Pastor Betty P. reference) that I used all of myself, Lived a decent life, and most of all Loved alot of people.
This is not to say I'm gonna be gun-ho and run to people whom have shown their true colors- I am just going to let them do them. I'm gonna do me as well, Love those whom love me and even those whom don't- I'm still gonna do it anyway.I'm gonna open up to those genuine people whom open up to me and show me that they are able to handle me. I'm gonna finally forgive those whom have hurt me in the past- I'm going to give others opportunities to get to know me for me, not the half-of a woman I used to present myself as.
Today's a New Day.
But enough of me....
Peep below for Loyalty The "IT" Word
Seems like the L word has become popular overnight and as I witness it loosely float out the mouths of those that are clearly still completely clueless as to what it really means, I just shake my head and wonder if they will ever fully understand. Loyalty does not compete with ego. You canʼt expect to be considered a loyal person if you are in fact doing things to others that you wouldnʼt want done to you. Loyalty is a character that stands alone, it doesnʼt need validation or verification. Itʼs a powerful force and element in any dynamic or relationship. With loyalty you can build a nation that will claim itself timeless, without it you can build a nation that will stand conditionally, then fall. In order to attain loyalty you must first look within yourself. Do you have the courage to stand in front of a mirror and tear yourself apart, then carefully put yourself back together again. That is the first step to being loyal.
Self-loyalty: being in tune with who you truly are and what you want to change about yourself to be a better person. Who are you under that pretty makeup, when you take of those fancy shoes and strip down to your bare skin? Are you still happy? Are your thoughtʼs controlling you, or do you control them? Until you start to put in the work of self-improvement you will never be considered loyal and therefore you will never have what it takes to be loyal to anyone else.
Iʼm still learning about the word loyalty and I understand that it is deeper than it sounds. When I first got my Loyalty tattoo back in 2008 I was in the beginning of a separation from my ex husband. I woke up one morning and it had finally hit me like a ten pound weight. I had given up on all my dreams, Iʼd been sitting in a safety box for 10 years straight. I stopped working for the better of Mashonda and was now working for the better of another human being. My self-loyalty had been diminished and I was losing myself and what God wanted me to do. I donʼt regret the time that I invested into my relationship but I wish I wouldʼve known that all I needed was a little more balance, that way I wouldʼve invested more time into me as well. Thankfully itʼs never to late and on that sunny morning I opened my eyes and I knew it was time to be loyal to me. I walked over to my bathroom counter and I looked straight into my soul, I knew what I had to do. I had to make some serious changes and it started when I stopped pointing the finger at others and began to take the blame for all of my own choices.
God is a good God, God is love. Most times we want to ask God “why me?” or “how could you let this happen to me when Iʼm such a good person?” Never ask God those things, itʼs just disrespectful. If you pay close attention to your life in reverse you will notice that you were always given signs. Thereʼs always something that happens first to make us aware of what might happen next but we seem to always take those signs for granted. Now, in my current age, Iʼve learned to act on those signs as quickly as possible. Itʼs a safety net that prevents things from spinning out of control and I am thankful for the clarity that those signs provide. God lets us make the ultimate choice, therefore there is no one to blame but ourselves.
If you can start practicing self-loyalty you will be less disappointed when others let you down, you will understand you self-worth. You canʼt be loyal to others if you are not loyal to yourself. The reality of that will always catch up to you.
LOYALTY; THE “IT” WORD
Be Loyal,
Mashonda
LOYALTY; THE “IT” WORD
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