Honesty Hour: "I Reached Out for Help"

For the first time in a long time, I admitted to someone whom I did NOT know well that I needed help. There’s this Young Woman whom I know and who’s older than me that posted something that caught my eye.... I know that experience is the greatest teacher, so when I saw her post:

“The only real differences between a 22 year old woman in turmoil and a 47 year old woman experiencing turmoil & trials....
1.            Usually the 47 y/o will drop to her knees & beg for help from her Source faster
2.            Typically the 22 y/o already thinks she knows it all
3.            The 47 y/o has figured it out, she knows nothing
4.            The 47 y/o has a whole wealth of experience to draw from and years behind her to assure her she will get through it”
She later added:
“5.          The 22 y/o is still looking outside of herself for answers; 47 y/o knows that someplace deep        within are the divine solutions to everything.
 ‎6.           22 y/o is dramatic about EVERYTHING; 47 y/o has realized it doesn't take "all that". It's never       that the 47 y/o is ever any better than the 22 y/o.
7.            She usually faces some of if not most of the same trials. We all have to repeat classes that we    haven't passed & demonstrated that we've learned all the material. In most cases the 47 y/o         should have a full file of knowledge to draw from. 

8.            Truly grown women aren't afraid to admit when we've failed at something, that we're  flawed &               have faults. Youth retains pretense & grown women are just too "real" for that. Posing keeps            you far from getting the help you need.”

I felt as if God used her status update to speak to me; I needed direction…so I reached out

“Ms. “Name removed” I'm 23 yrs old...I've dropped to my knee's, spoke with my parents, broke down at the alter, and went inside my prayer closet...the pain, turmoil, anger, and loneliness i feel has not gone anywhere....idk how old you are, but what advice can you offer me?”

In private we spoke to one another:

“First of all, let me applaud you for having made a decision to establish & maintain a relationship with God. That is major for a young woman. You have a starting point, a foundation. I am actually a few weeks away from 40 y/o. My advice to you may come as simplistic but it is the truth, believe me. Continue doing what you're doing. Stay in contact with your Creator on a daily basis, lay before Him for answers you need. Trust Him in all things. As He directs you and He will, He really will. Do what He says. Do what He says even in the tiniest little things. You will learn more about God & yourself in incremental ways. You will never get everything right. You will drop the ball and that is okay. His grace is sufficient. Seek practical avenues of help for situations you may be facing, primarily from women of wit and wisdom. Also, try not to take yourself so seriously. God will grow you up level by level. Also, on taking away some of the loneliness, try to make it a habit of giving of yourself as much as possible to others. It helps me when I volunteer. I can't feel down on myself and be in a room of preschoolers at the same time. Try it, you'll love it!! Call or text me anytime
You are so very welcome. I'm still trying to wrap my mind around turning 40....I'm not there yet! Great, I will lock your number in.
 Be encouraged Lady!! This too shall pass. Whatever you focus on persists. Focus on what you want to see more of in your life. Have a fantastic day why don't you!”

With tears in my eyes, I boldly heed this Wise woman of God’s advice. Focus on what you want to see more of in your life: I want more love: I’ll focus on loving people more. I want a decent man for me: I’ll focus on being a decent woman. I want loyal, unwavering, and decent friends: I’ll focus on being that type of friend. I want peace: I’ll focus on peace. I want a better relationship with God: I’ll focus on being a better child of his.

Change Your Focus…Change Your Life.